I've been reading this with interest because it is hitting on so many hot buttons, not just the one Patrick raised. The male biological clock, (sad for Patrick and his fellow males that he has so little control over his biological reproductive choices), adoption, step parenting, resentment and repulsion of women over many men's (most?) preference for younger bodies, resentment by men that women dont understand how important physcial beauty is to men, etc.
As a woman who has been a biological mother, a stepmother, a foster mother and an adoptive mother I admit to a little distaste for people who are unable to fully love children who are not of their DNA. I told someone who questioned my feelings for my adoptive children "There is nothing sacred about my DNA". However, if I had never had biological children I cant be sure I would still feel that way. Having an active uterus as a "must have" item for men does feel creepy, but I had other biological choices if I wanted them, so I wont judge. What feels worse is knowing that many of the men my age are scanning the profiles of women 10, 20 maybe even 30 years younger than me - and themselves. The only valid point, other than the nature of men, that I've seen mentioned is when a very physically active man feels women his own age cant keep up. True, I have read profiles of bikers, canoers, kayakers, parachuters, etc that I sure dont find interesting pursuits; in fact most of the women my age (70) that I know are considered active if they hit the gym 3x per week. Most of us, its true, like dining out, going to the movies, maybe shopping or non strenuous travel as recreation, so a man who wants a partner for strenuous physical activities may need to look for younger women, although I suspect they are doing those things so they can attract younger women rather than vice versa. I suspect that the real reason older men are seeking much younger women is for a reason older than time -sexual gratification. Most women, younger and older resent that, reality that it be. Young women are creeped out, older women feel like they cant compete, and shouldnt have to. I'd like CM to add a counter to profiles showing the average age of the women a man has browsed so that when the men get tired of being rejected by their daughter's age women and start turning to women who might consider them, we know what they were really looking for all this time. That would be as big a "no" for me as no photo.
I'd like Patrick and his womb hunters to consider one thing; despite examples stated otherwise, statistically a man 10, 15, or 20 years younger than his wife will be leaving her a widow when she is no longer on the young list, possibly raising that child you wanted alone. Are you OK with that?