Linda I liked your comments on the timing of when to date. Geri had a chronic illness throughout our marriage. The last 15 months were particularly hard with physical separation, assisted living facility, hospital stays and eventually hospice. I feel like I belong to a subgroup called "Well Spouse Widowed".
One other comment I like to share is that I have learned from you Linda and others on CM already is to say “Geri” vs my old habit of my wife. I wished I knew that earlier as I learned too late to not say my wife in a response to a question in a emotigram.
Guess I will need to learn that as well, I still say my husband instead of Pete. . .its hard I can remember when we were first married I was so proud to be a wife and I loved the way "my husband" sounded and felt to say it. . .silly maybe.