My son and his wife wear our rings now.
Saving the rings for the kids is a great idea. Mine are still quite young so hopefully it will be a while before I pass them on. My ring is especially significant as it is also an heirloom from my wife's family. It was her grandfather's and is inscribed on the inside "Conn and Eimear, 16 June, 1928".
Respectfully I have to disagree with anyone who says there is a recipee for grief. What is wrong with finding comfort in wearing a ring? So what if it bothers someone else - if it brings YOU comfort then why stop? I know there were people who were deeply upset that it took me over a month to change the recording on MY answering machine because my late wife recorded it. So what, if it bothers you that much, then stop calling my house! Pretty simple, no? If you follow the argument that the earthly marriage is over, then why would anyone wear a wedding ring to the funeral, afterall the earthly marriage dies at the very instant that your spouse takes their last breath. So if it's OK to wear a ring 10 seconds, 10 minutes, 10 days after the death of the marriage, why is it not ok after x weeks?
I dear friend, and Nun was telling a group of us a story, and I think that a part of the story is very applicable to this discussion. I think the best answer to when, would be "Time will tell, only God knows!"
I do agree that wearing the ring is a symbol that your grief is still very raw, and needs maturing, and as such you're not ready to start dating. That said I'm sure most people would run the other way if you were wearing a wedding ring on a date.
My wife passed away 3 years ago. I first took the ring off about 5 months after she died but felt gulity and put it back on. I took it off and on for a while but have decided to leave it on. I feel more comfortable and probably wouldn't get married again at my age.
also, legally we aren't married but I had a happy marriage and a wonderful wife so in my heart I like to feel I am still with her. I wear the one she gave me on my finger and the one I gave her on my scapula around my neck.
My sons are grown and haven't said anything but I think they appreciate this demonstation of my love.
As catholics, we believe we will met again in heaven. So the marriage will continue.
Let's pray for each other,