When my Dad died, my mom told my son that my Dad wanted him to have his wedding band. My dad's ring was a thick band usually worn only for dress as it could not safely be worn by a firefighter and diesel mechanic. When my son got married, both my parent's wedding date and my son's were engraved inside. My daughter's engagement ring has my mom's diamond and mine flanking the sides of her own (larger) diamond.
I just started into the forums. Sorry it's taken me so long to reply. I must admit that if I went out on a date and the gentleman was still wearing his wedding ring, I would be...concerned.
Ya know, this answer isn't easy. My husband died a slow 2 year, pain ridden fight with cancer. And I thought I was prepared. But there is still that numbing shock you go through. I had my husband's wedding ring buried with him because it was part of who he was. I stopped wearing my ring rather quickly - very mixed emotions. In a way, it symbolizes that he will always be with me, yet he is physically not there any more to talk to, to eat with, to hold, so the physical realm is over. Also, we go through changes in our bodies - I lost some weight, enough that I almost lost my ring several times, so I didn't want to resize it, just retire it into the treasured dept., but I still wanted something of him with me constantly for comfort. My husband and I were part of a movement in the Catholic Faith called "ACTS". It was absolutely one of the most beautiful experiences of our marriage and one of the things you receive on that weekend journey is a bracelet made of fishing snaps linked together and it signified being fishers of men.
My marriage wasn't present any longer so I transitioned into wearing both our bracelets linked together. It's been over 5 years for me now and we were married 28 years. The first date I went on not so long ago was very uncomfortable for me. The dating game, scary to put yourself back out there. I haven't worn the bracelets in a while.
The primary thing I would be concerned about would be if the ring disappeared quickly and the widow/er started looking for someone within a quick time period. There are those people that can't live alone and those are the ones you really have to be careful with. We become new people and that takes time to discover and build. And I'm looking for someone who is now grateful for the years they were Bless with their spouse, but is now still grateful to be alive and finding the beauty that's still here in the world and in people. That takes time and its the continued journey our Faith takes which makes us stronger, to be secure and comfortable with who we are and being alone. We just know we can make it as is, but miss that someone special to share life with, not replace who we lost.
Don't know if this will confuse you more or help, but that's my perspective. God Bless and good luck.
I know, terribly sentimental. But it's on a chain with hers, and I wear it on our anniversary.
My story is somewhat unusual so if you can bear with me for a few moments I'll try to explain
When Connie and I got married I gathered all her gold jewelry and all of mine and I made our own engagement rings. They were free style with each having an uncut rough diamond of at least 1.5 cts. In addition they each has a faceted small diamond. We were together when I melted the wax forms from the plaster shell and melted the gold while watching the gold pieces melt into an amalgum of one.
. After the ceremony having the bands purchesed at JCP I fused them to the engagement ring so that they never could be separated.
As a result of that process as we entered a 35 year journey of absolute love and dedication I found it impossible to remove the rings. The rings were a reflection of a most loving and beautiful time of our lives that reflected my honoring her memory on a day to day basis as well as projecting to all who met me, my complete love and honor for Connie.
Fast forward: After meeting Valerie on this site, she commented on the rings and after telling her my story she was happy that I had such respect for my wife. When we decided to marry I offered Valerie my wedding ring from my marriage to Connie, as our engagement ring. I explained that it was not only my approval of the pending marriage but a sign that Connie also approved of our love and pending marriage.
Valerie did accept my rings as hers and wore them with great honor and dignity. She was very proud that we three became one.
Today I wear the Connie/Valerie rings that I made on my right pinkey finger and my new wedding band (Chocolate Diamonds) on my left hand so I can therefore pay homage to the two most beautiful women in my life.
I have no idea what will happen should I meet another but you can be sure that I will never remove either ring until I have met my new love. We, then as a couple will decide what to do with these rings. Until then they will remain on my hands for all the world to see and know that I have been deeply loved and I have given that love in return.
Thanks for listening and