I wish I knew how much men truly value looks, and how they (tend to) think it's better to hide the truth if it'll hurt someone they care about :/
I wish men knew that it's better to not hide anything because oftentimes the act of hiding it or lying is more upsetting than whatever it was. I caught my dad telling my ex if he ever cheated on me to not tell me, just don't let it happen again. Neither understood why that upset me! If that were the case and he told me, we'd work through it- lie and I find out about it? Far FAR worse. Little things, too. Don't like my dinner? Tell me so I can make it better. Don't tell me you love it so I keep making it and eventually feel like an idiot when I find out you hate it...even if it's meant to spare feelings, being lied to and finding out about it feels cruel and heartbreaking (to me, anyhow)
Mary, thank you for posting! I think that while men value looks (as do women) they also value qualities such as confidence, kindness, goodness and a smiling face! (at least I hope so! :) ) Don't give up! I'd also say that I don't think all men act as this man did with you. There are some great guys out there! And you will find one who truly deserves you!
Looks only open the door for you, its the rest of you needs to walk though it. This is the best way i can put it. There are a lot of men who put a high degree of importance on a women's looks, but normally this is a sign of immaturity at best or at worst they are just superficial. Either way they are not men you want to be tied to in the long run.