Part of living the faith IS being a light to the truth and defending the truth always taught by the Church. That is all I am attempting to do, I make no claims to be a doctor or a saint, but I won't sit as a hermit concerned with only myself when there are so many souls in this world who thirst for the Truth of God. Remember there have been times where almost the whole Catholic world was in heresy (Arianism) and few spoke up. Any Pope prior to John XXIII would have never kissed or Koran, held ecumenical services, (prayer or otherwise) or called on the inner humanistic in us in a appeal for peace. As every Catholic knows (or should know) that true peace cannot be found in man, but only from God.
We live in a time of diabolical disorientation, Our Lady has tried to warn the world and Catholics specifically several times, (Fatima, La Sallet, and others) that if the world does not turn back to her Son there will be much suffering. Why should we keep quiet when we have heard straight from Heaven that we need to do penance and to turn back to God? Doing so only aids the Prince of this world. We are called to be spiritual warriors and part of that is verbal combat with heretics, schematics, fallen away brethren, and pagans.
As for the tail can not wag the dog, God does not work in such simplistic ways. There have been times where saints have corrected bishops, cardinals, popes, yet they are not the tail are they? Yes they were saints, but they were not in the "position of power or authority" over those positions, so in that sense they are the tail. Again, I am not claiming to be anything near a saint as the Lord knows I am a sinner. What I am trying to do is be some small flagbearer for the Truth that the Church has protected and passed down from Christ through the Apostles, which is what ALL Catholics are called to be; bearers of Truth.
Can't disagree with the overall thrust of your statement. The only problem I see in it is that part of it is based on your own interpretation of how things should be rather than what they actually are. There is nothing wrong with kissing anyone's holy book as a sign of respect for the others belief. In no way did it signify an acceptance and approval of what is not really the word of God. Nothing wrong with taking part in a ecumenical prayer service.
Every Pope since Pius XII has not strayed from the truth of the Faith. None have committed heresy. All have called for the faithful and the world to turn to God and Jesus Christ and His Church.