I'm not sure if anyone else has had this problem, but I often times find that instead of looking for the right match I am actually looking for someone that matches the "one that got away." I search these profiles all the time and instead of looking for a new connection that is different I find that I am just trying to find someone that matches that echo from the past. Any advice on snapping my mental hiccup? I want to meet the right person and get married, but I can't get past trying to recapture what once was by finding a similar person. I think it is holding me back and I want to move forward...
I can kind of relate to this and I think it's a very common here on CM. The last time I used CM nearly every woman i talked with was trying to get over their ex or the last guy they were "involved" with. I think this type of thing is pretty normal in the online dating world or maybe just the dating world in general. I don't think there is necessary anything wrong with contacting someone who reminds you of someone from your past as long as it's something that just catches your eye and not the main reason for your interest.
I think it's important to keep in mind each person that comes into our lives is an opportunity for us to grow as a person and become a better husband/wife in the future. So untimely we make choice to try and learn from the past and grow, or to give into regret and bitterness. I recommend to take sometime and reflect on the good and the bad in her and yourself and see what you can learn form this experience. This is a process that will take time and sometimes the deeper lesions may not show themselves for years, but it's worth doing and will help in the long run.