(quote) Matthew-972621 said: Very true. I am not perfect, none of us are. Some of the responses I HAVE gotten on here have been bluntly honest on the things they do not like that they saw on my profile, such as I do not have a masters or bachelors degree. I am more in the line of thought that you should get to know people for who they are, as you never know what you may be missing out on!
I agree, entirely, Matthew. Many people in my area, or in my field of work, worked their way up to executive level positions and earn far more, etc. than those who have master degrees in other fields! This is ridiculous. As far as that goes, I also know that most people locally who didn't go to school with me guess me at far younger because I'm active and apparently they don't think I look my chronological age. . . sometimes online dating's "check boxes," when answering truthfully, get us screened out of someone's search or they won't consider us. One lady told me, "well, you're 41 and not married, have never been married, and never fathered any children. When I see that, I think you are one of the following: 1. Gay or struggling with same-sex attraction; 2. Backward socially or perhaps intellectually; 3. Promiscuous, abusive, a player, or a combination of these."
I was very unhappy with that response, but her claim is that many women feel that way once guys get to a certain age. Perhaps, instead, consider, that if a man went to a small college for most of his education, he was going to school with the same people from our area high schools, some men are related to over 50 percent of the population (me), and time out for the military AND for long-term serious relationships that for some reason didn't pan out. . . most of my dating has been for six months or more. . . . and at times, yes, I was too busy to date or didn't (i.e. the year I was mobilized, and for the six months before that, because I was on drill status daily for my unit after I left my job to accept another, and the day before I was to start, the offer was withdrawn---for financial reasons at the company, not because of me). Underemployed men should not be dating. :)
Anyway, all of us that are over 30 and not married and/or childless are for a variety of reasons. . . I was upset by the judgment call. It was tempting to tell her it was obvious why she was in the same boat at age 38. :D