Yes that clarifies and thanks for the clarification also. The reason it bothers me, is this example. My sister and also my sister inlaw (my Brothers wife) and her mother, think you can go to mass and when we say the prayer at the beginning of mass. where we ask forgiveness for our sins for all we have done at not have done and to our brothers and sister. They think that is the same as going to a priest to forgive our sins and also they also think we are only required to go to mass and confession once a year. Also when I try and tell them, this is not so, I get told I don't know what i'm talking about. It just strikes me odd that so many people don't know these things and how did they come to believe this is true???
Thomas, someone told them, but I never heard that at the beginning of Mass the confiteor we ask for forgiveness that it substituted for confession. I was also told you only need to go to confession once in your life and it better be good. Have they told you that one? It depends on their upbringing, and need to confess. We all have venial sins but how often do we as adults commit mortal sins.