Lutheran Minister friend who asked me to Post...
Appearance is the first thing. but after that, got to look at the whole thing.
How does the other person make you feel? Is that person someone I can love and help in their life?
Marriage is a shared life together, caring, hanging out together, like being together, conversing, problem solving, making saving and spending decisions together, supporting the other person's goals, sharing resources, giving each other space at times, doing stuff together, maybe working a farm or business together, liking each other, companionship, sharing grief and the good times, sleeping together or apart as some do, sex once in awhile or as often as they mutually agree.
He asked me to let him know what CMers think of the above?