Many stories in either regard. Best I heard was the wife who said that her husband didn get the red sports car by he sold the business nd bought a dive shop. They even moved to Belize for a while. Continued to provide for the family, just an entirely different business.
She would joke that she wishes he bought the car.
Bought the red sports car (in boxes...spent 2 years putting it back together...). Did it to keep the hands busy. It's just a car. One of many I've owned over my life (sports cars, that is...).
What does a midlife crisis look like? Panic when you realize 1) you aren't going to be president of the company, 2) your hair is turning grey, 3) things aren't as 'firm' as they once were, 4) your eye doctor tells you you need glasses when you never did before, so you go out and regress in age...rather than leaning into your situation, grabbing on, appreciating what you have, and look to the future.
It's an excuse to act like a spoiled child because you 'didn't get your way'. It usually involved tossing aside everything you held (and should still hold) dear. It's stupid and destructive. And it hurts people you should never hurt...doesn't matter whether you're a woman or man.