I saw my brother begin to grieve when he found out his wife was terminal and watched him tell their daughter that mommy was going to Heaven to be with Jesus. My brother is one of the strongest men I know. His wife died on Jan 12, 2009. He remarried this past January and seems happy, so I am happy for him. I just hope his wife loves my niece the way she deserves to be loved.
I myself dated a soldier 3 years after my husband died and almost married him. Things didn't work out for us, perhaps God was looking out for me. We broke up, he moved to California after getting out of the army, met another woman, married her, rejoined the military and was killed in Iraq 6 weeks after getting there - 4 days after his 31st birthday. I was devastated when I found out. I thought somehow we'd find eachother and marry.
This past year I met a man while at work. I'm a nurse and he's a prison guard who was assigned to a prisoner i was taking care of. I took a chance and gave him my number when my shift ended. We dated ten months, I met his kids after just two months at his insistance because thigs were going so well, his family, he traveled to Ohio to meet my parents and siblings. Then mid June, two weeks after returning from Ohio the bottom fell out when instead of planning for a wedding, we'd talked about marriage so many times over the past few months, he broke up with me. Telling me he never loved me as more than a friend. I asked him why he'd talked about marriage and a baby, things I've wanted since my husband died but never dared speak about it until I thought the relationship was solid. He was the one who had brought up those subjects time and time again. His response, "Because I knew that's what you wanted."
It's been 4 months since we broke up and deep in my heart I want to meet the one that God has in store for me, it obviously wasn't him. But, I am scared to let my guard down. This man, Joe, was the first man I let myself love completely since my husband.
I wish you luck and will pray for you. There is no right time to enter the dating world. I've been dating off and on for ten years. Feel free to message me if you ever need a friend to lend an ear. :) I will pray for you.
God has great things in store for you.