I've met somewhere between 50 and 80 CMers in person. As a general rule, the only reason I can see that most of the ladies are single is because they are a bit heavy. Otherwise, they are all lovely people.
As for the men, the biggest reasons that most of them are single seem to be: lack of polished manners (opening doors, saying thank you, offering their chairs, other small things that matter to the gals) and lack of any real attempt to make conversation with new people.
Good observation Marge! I am a "data" driven person (LOVE statistics/data collecting), especially when it comes to analyzing behaviors (current special ed. teacher studying to become a behavioral analyst). I believe that Marge has made an excellent deduction. Is her conclusion research based (50 to 80, not a large base, but large enough)? STATISTICS show that most of todays men (as opposed to those from the Victorian Era) are attracted to the visual appearance of women with the measurements of a life sized Barbie doll more than any other "shape". Are the body measurements of a life sized Barbie doll realistic? Again, studies show that a woman with the measurements of a life sized Barbie doll is grossly "out of proportion". So how is it that today's man has grown attracted to something that is so abnormal? PORN! Even "good Christian men" view pornographic images of women, most of which are airbrushed and not even "the real thing". If you haven't already noticed a young (20 year old) woman of "good size" (5'10" and over 150 lbs) is the front page model for the Sports Illustrated Swim Suit issue this year. She was criticized because she had a noticable fat roll under her right arm in the front page photo, as well as on her hips!! Another "beautiful" woman is Miss USA; she was criticized because a month after the competition she had gained "signicant" weight and no longer looked "attractive". She admitted that she starved herself (and airbrushed her midsection) before the competition and now she was eating "salads", as opposed to NOTHING. Sorry to go on a tangent here but PORN has destroyed a man's healthy image of a woman. Before I was married I was a fashion model (naturally thin); my former husband was physically attracted to the "thin" type. After I had my first child I was thinner than before I had him but my former spouse insisted that I was "too fat" and had to lose weight. Years later I found out that he was viewing pornographic images of women, some that looked prepubescent, like our daughters at the time . I understand your concern about Catholic men not being attracted to "chunky women", but I think you will find that Christian men in general (not just Catholic men) are seeking the "perfect" wife, which includes perfection in ALL areas (remember, their ideal visual image of perfection in women is a life-sized Barbie doll), whereas non-Christian men are just looking to get laid. Can this trend be reversed? I hope so but I don't see it happening any time soon as the women at my church are "pleasing" their husbands by getting boob jobs and spending family funds/time on multiple gym memberships, training/competing in triathalons, marathons, and body-building competitions. Everyone should be LOVED for who they are not whether they are a size 2/4/6 or 14/16/18. I have even seen men post that their ideal date should be a "single digit dress size". So if I wear a size 10 he isn't interested , when the average dress size is a 12 . Another study was done comparing the personality changes of women before they had lost alot of weight and after. THe study showed that when the woman was overweight her personality was more engaging whereas after the weight loss she was LESS engaging, relying more on her appearance to get attention. I have overweight female friends and female friends that are always trying to lose weight. I prefer to spend time with the overweight friends because they are much more pleasant to be around.