(Quote) Ralph-850764 said:
What happens when you feel you are young of soul and old body wise, or at least your age is incri...
(Quote) Ralph-850764 said:
What happens when you feel you are young of soul and old body wise, or at least your age is incriminating and offensive towards a young counterpart? When you can't stand comuning with an elders subjects in a adult conference and feel you are better off with the youngsters 18 up and are rejected just because...? I have expirienced this more than once and just a day or so with a member here that flatly said (And I quoat) I was to her understanding to old to be making contact with her. I still can't come over the fact that I can't find a beautiful frienship and if life is as nice as they paint it a deep marrige in love, understanding in God's ways. I still am convinced I can let out that hidden charm of my 20's without scareing them off with my age, allthough I hate to admit it seems evident I have a strong enemy my almost 50. I am motivatedly impressed with the teens, twentys and maybe just some in the 30's but when life tells you likewise you feel so desperate and lonely without hope. It is then when you ask yourself.... What did i do wrong to deserve this punishment? or is it? What is your point of view? Thanks "Thunder Angel" Ralph
I don't necessarily think it is totally out of the realm of possibility that an almost fifty year old man would be interested in younger people. I wasn't quite sure what your interests were though. If you feel young at heart and the topics of conversation are more interesting to you with the younger set I don't see much wrong with that. I am one of the oldest members of my grad program and was also an older undergrad and I get along very well with the younger group, but it is more in a maternal fashion I think. If your primary interest lies in their youthful faces and appearance it might very well come off a bit out of line. My grandmother on my dad's side was 18 when she married my grandfather and he was in his fifties but those were very different times.
One of the problems that I see with such relationships either way male or female who are that much older is the power differential is so different, due to experience, etc, the elder in the equation can and often does exert undue influence on the younger more inexperienced counterpart and in such a case it is not a love relationship but a power relationship and as such can devolve into power struggles and manipulation. I am not saying this is the case here, but it is something I worry about. And, this power differential in relationships need not be confined to relationships with large age disparities, it can come through many avenues. . .educational disparities, financial disparities, even personality disparities.
If you are seeking friends among the younger set, I see no problem with being able to develop friendships. And, it is always possible that a romantic relationship can blossom from such a friendship. But, if you are having difficulty developing the friendships that you seek, perhaps its in your approach that leaves the approached with either ambiguous or mistaken understanding of your intent.