(Quote) Monica-730858 said: I totally understand what you are saying because I felt the same way and was literally shocked ...
(Quote) Monica-730858 said:
I totally understand what you are saying because I felt the same way and was literally shocked when I realized that kissing could be a mortal sin. I, being a convert thought that it would be impossible to find someone who would not engage in premarital sex. Then I started listening to these homilies recently and thought, "you have to be kidding me...kissing is off the table too?" But after A LOT of time spent thinking about it and praying about it and listening to similar homilies and finding out how Catholics used to view things (change isn't always a good thing) it started to make sense. If I'm really honest I can't think of a relationship I've ever had with a guy where he didn't expect passionate kissing to lead to more. I suppose that could be possible, I just haven't encountered it. And, if you think honestly about it what is the point of passionate kissing? Can anyone really kiss someone this way and not have their passions stirred up? I mean, isn't that the point? I would really encourage you to try to find a way to listen to him if you can. I can't imagine anyone hearing a few of his homilies and not agreeing with him. He's speaking the truth and his only motive is trying to get souls to heaven.
An excellent post, Monica!
It completely understandable that you were shocked when you first hear the message: it's certainly not one most people have heard before, and it is diametrically opposed to the culture most of us have grown up in and been formed by. It's certainly not an easy thing to accept -- which is a pretty good indication it is correct ("Enter ye in at the narrow gate: for wide is the gate, and broad is the way that leadeth to destruction, and many there are who go in thereat. How narrow is the gate, and strait is the way that leadeth to life: and few there are that find it!" Matt. 7:13-14).
The path you took is a perfect example of how must approach these situations if we are to develop spiritually; if we rely on our emotional reactions, as many do, we are allowing ourselves to be lead astray by those who wish nothing more than to claim our souls as trophies, as if they provide any consolation in their own eternal damnation.