(Quote) Joan-529855 said:
(Quote) Marian-83994 said:
I agree with you. Most men don't car...
(Quote) Joan-529855 said:
Quote: Marian-83994 said:
I agree with you. Most men don't care about height. I have had a California man demand to know my weight a few years back or he would stop correspondance. I told him fine- we can stop correspondance. So I am used to the weight issue and how it is harder to live with or mask if one's frame is short- Hence- regular healthy diet and exercise is my solution. I know there are men here who need to heed that solution as well. I think this thread is posted in the wrong room. Forgive me everyone for talking too much aboput weight- but for anyone short- i think that is the issue that begins to be a concern of someone online who is only seeing a photo and who is wondering if they want to date us or not. This is how I see it for myself.
YIKES a man demanded to know your weight!
The man was from Salinas, CA was very legalistic and was a recovered alcoholic. I had been reading about John Steinbeck (author)and how there is a old home in Carmel where he lived and this man was an English teacher who lived near those areas of CA and I asked about it and attempted to engage this man in intelligent and respectful conversation. He was ok with that but was not very excited about the home Steinbeck had lived in- still that is a more appropriate subjkect matter than my weight IMHO.
I was stunned when suddenly raised the bar (or lowered himself) and he threatened to quit talking if I did not disclose my weight. I stated to him, "I will not disclose my weight to you, you are free to discontinue talking with me."
I very am well aware that I am short and that I am not thin in appearance in my photos. I grew up dancing ballet in front of a mirror where we had to scrutinize our appearance. I know that most ballerinas and models literally starve themselves but are gifted with a thin frame. I can look thinner but always must work
at it and I am more than willing to do so. THAT is the CONVERSATON and MAN and WOMAN need to have with one another.
I need to state I am more than willing to exercise and he needs to join me or do the same himself. Period.
I am not going to be treated that way and I am not going to let someone treat me like an object SIMPLY for his pleasure like he was ordering up a doll. I gave him what he deserved. He knew almost nothing about me and I don't deserve that. Weight can be discussed but not in an degrading, objectifying, ugly or threatening way. I am not an object. I am a human being. I expect to be treated with respect and so should everyone here.