The error many make is assuming the Church must change to keep the seats full: the Church, through her members, must do their best to teach those they bring in why they should choose to keep their seat. Ultimately, all must accept the Church on her terms; while she doesn't reject them, she does not change to keep them on their terms.
Wow do I agree, very well said. I want to ask the people that disagree with the church - because I did at one point - Do you actually think you are smarter than over 2,000 years of smart and holy people praying, writing, discerning, discussing the faith? Do you actually think you are smarter than the actual friends of Jesus? I once thought I was smarter than the church. I thought the church was archaic and out of touch. I thought it just didn't uderstand our new world.
But, by the grace of God, I actually convinced myself to "try" to live as the church teaches with Chastity. I am not perfect at it, but I can tell all that ever since I have tried to learn about and follow the theology of the body and chastity that the Church teaches, a whole new and wonderful world has opened up for me. It is hard to describe, but so many more graces abound in my life and my life is so much more healthier in so many ways. The church was right and I was wrong.
This finally let the thought get through my thick skull that maybe I am not so smart; maybe I don't know more abot how to live than all these other saints. It's time for humility; time for us to realize we (as a society) don't know all that much like we think we do and maybe our predecessors have something to say to us so we don't have to learn it the hard way.
To answer the very original post in this thread, I am curious if more people follow the church's teaching in regards to sexuality but are maybe reluctant to say due to the macho culture we live in???