One of the best you've seen in years? WOW... I am so honored.
I respectfully disagree with you on #4. That is just a natural reaction in a man. My experience in dating is that when it starts to take more of a serious turn, the woman seems to want to monopolize all of the man's time. Thus, the man starts to resent the woman's actions and tries to distance himself from her.
The woman shouldn't freak out about this. Just work with the man and give him more space. He will then likely appreciate the woman and want to spend even more time with her.
I know a girl in this situation. The guy has SERIOUS anxiety from a past relationship, and even though they've talked about dating for almost two years now and he's told her he really likes her, he can't get over his anxiety. I think his fiance called off their engagement years ago and he's never gotten over it. So, now this girl is stuck waiting for him to get past his issues. How long should she wait? Maybe this is a subject for a new forum topic...