(quote) Gary-936836 said: She's somebody rather special, and she was trying to spare my feelings. I know her well enough to know that is why she didn't come right out and give me an explicit reason. I didn't make a point of asking, either, because I know that nothing she could say would make it hurt less. It would be no relief to hear she has decided that the religious vocation is for her. It also wouldn't make me feel better to hear that she found someone closer, or that I am very awesome but just not physically attractive to her.
No, hearing her reason wouldn't make me feel any better. I'm not sure if it'd give me closure, even. It might help a bit on that. It's possible she's just running away from a good thing she doesn't feel worthy of, though.
But that other girl who just blocked me for no reason -- that girl was just insensitive. At least this one had the class to actually confront me and say goodbye. That is a mature way to handle it, and honestly, I just want to be there for her as best I can, Marge.
Sorry to hear that, Gary...
It reminds me of someone I had to turn down after a few months of dating him. He's really a nice guy and my family likes him and thought I made a mistake. But it was more painful for me to see him so hopeful but I, unfortunately, only see him as a friend only.
Before we dated, I actually turned him down as I know I see him only as a friend, however good he is. But he was too persistent until I finally gave him a chance. But 5 months and my feelings still didnt change.
He was so hurt, and I cried not because I love him, but because I pity him that I turned him down twice. But however painful it was, I had to tell or he'd be more hurt. He asked for reasons, and another chance, and I had to tell him the truth and a No.
Since then, if I really don't feel any chemistry with someone, or there is no connection, I turn them down as nicely as I can.
Of course, it's different when the guy is too persistent, rude or something... you really have to turn them down up front.
But on the lighter side, being turned down is true to both men and women. I've had one or two man who did, and their reason is they are not good enough for me. LOL the nicest way to tell a lady! :)