I'm having a hard time getting a read on some of the attitudes, especially in interview questions, that I come across - some of them seem so loaded and extreme that it really kind of scares me off a bit.
I certainly understand that you'd want to know if a person you'd potentially be interested in shared crucial views. Still, they often give me the impression that most of the men out there looking are extremely unbending and well, extreme, with so specific a person in mind that we might as well not bother because they aren't out there. The online dating thing is hard, to me, already because of the way you have to put yourself out there. You can't be shy and have it work, whereas if you meet someone you often have time to at least observe for a minute or two. The extreme attitudes make it so much worse, and there's a lot of them!
Just to clarify, I'm not talking about issues of Catholic doctrine; these questions are more about Catholic culture (which can vary), ie a woman's role vs a man's, etc.
Does anyone else stuggle with the small world of Catholic singles becoming even smaller by more extreme views, and do you have any advice or helpful hints for navigating that? Also, I have been off and on this site, but havent yet been active for long periods of time...am I just getting a bad early impression or are the extremes really so prevalent? It often seems that the focus is mostly on differentiators, not what's held in common.