I wonder, after reading every entry in this thread why anybody would be on this site if you were not 7/7. ...
Lawrence, your post is a good example of why I said in the Community room that we need a separate forum on chastity.
First, I totally agree--I don't know why anyone who was not 7/7 would even care about being on a Catholic site. Go be on Match.com if you plan to have sex with those you meet online.
But the topic of this thread is how to be chaste. It should be one place where people who are chaste, or trying to be, can express how they do that, why it matters, and encourage others with their experiences.
Here is the truth: having sex outside of a sacramental marriage is wrong and a sin. It's a sin, for which God can forgive you, if you seek His foregiveness, but it is still wrong and a sin.
Those who have done this, or are doing this, are not horrible people, but like all of us, have sinned.
But someone who is in active, current, no intention of not doing it sin is not someone who is a good bet for a relationship to lead to sacramental marriage for someone who has been chaste, or who is trying to be chaste, as God has asked us to do.
No one above's post is directed at anyone; it is talking about how to be chaste. Someone who is not chaste or striving to be has no interest in this thread, so if anyone feels criticized when they read who honest and striving people have to say about their own path of chastity, well then I say that is the Holy Spirit trying to reach their conscience on the issue.
And I don't see anyone here saying don't be affectionate, be a prude, don't ever be alone. That is ridiculous; we are not animals. We can control ourselves.
But we should be able to talk about this on a Catholic web site without being criticized for it.