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Discussion related to living as a Catholic in the single state of life. As long as a topic is being discussed from the perspective of a single Catholic then it will be on-topic.

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Mar 20th 2013 new

(Quote) Michael-409069 said: Above ALL things, Prayer is the key.
(Quote) Michael-409069 said:

Above ALL things, Prayer is the key.

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Avoiding temptation is a close second. Not all temptation is the result of our (avoidable) actions, but in this area much is. When you are on a diet, do you wander around a candy store or Baskin Robbins?

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Mar 20th 2013 new

God made us. When He looked at us he said it was good. Therefore, every part of our being is good. Including our sexuality. However, like the clutch on a car there's a right way and a wrong way to use it. Abusing it can result in all sorts of problems, both for us and our future spouse. My clutch is a bit slippery at the moment, its a real nusiance when it doesn't lock in gear properly and then refuses to move up into 3rd makes me look like an idiot at the intersection when it revs like a drive by shooting.

Anyway, sex...

God made our sexualities to be both life giving and generous. Not all of us can transmit life, either due to defect or sin or age, but that doesn't mean the generousity of it is mooted, nor should it be convienantly ignored.

So in order to reflect that generosity, we must give all of our sexuality to our future spouse. That means no dating Roise Palmer and her five daughters, that means no drunken Friday night orgies, that means no porn, no "third base". Everything. In its completeness, must be given to our future spouse, as God intended.

Plus, really, you just gotta look around and see the complete and unmitigated disaster the "free sex" society has won us. STDs are exploding in number and virosity, unplanned pregnancies, abortions, the "baggage" brought along by future partners, the addiction to porn, et cetera, its just a huge SNAFU. Is this really something we want to bring to our future marriages?

If I wasn't Catholic, I'd still live by the same sexual ethics, because it just makes sense.

My methodolgy in keeping my V club card:

1. Fornication messes everything up.

2. STDs are not pretty.

3. Don't want to have the "husband, you're x on the list of my lovers" conversation.

4. There's not enough good practising Catholics in this country, if I got pregnant out of wedlock, I'd have a huge moral crisis as in whom to adopt my baby to.

5. I love God. Fornication pi$$es Him off. I don't want to brass off the Almighty. He's my buddy.

6. Really? A couple o' minutes of naked pleasure with some guy? That's what classes as fun these days. I think its lazy and shows people can't come up with anything orginial to be doing on a Friday night. Bunnies shag en masse, I like to think we're a little more clever than bunnies. [And those few minutes o' pleasure, that's what's going to earn me an eternity in Hell? If people are going to go to Hell, at least go for something specatcular!]

7. Get a hobby. Go to bed tired. If your'e single, bed is for sleeping, computers are for WOW and annoying the atheists on their silly forums.

8. Pray. Pray and then pray some more. Imagine Mary is in your room, standing over your bed, watching you. Imagine in her sinless, holy voice, the same voice that soothed our Lord and called him to supper, imagine her saying "What are you doing?" You think you can explain your actions to Our Holy Lady? Then imagine her doing this: www.youtube.com

In closing, automatics are the devil; even taking into account dodgy clutches.

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Mar 20th 2013 new

(Quote) Jim-13836 said: (Quote) Marian-83994 said: I appreciate your candor. It has been comm...
(Quote) Jim-13836 said:

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Marian-83994 said:



I appreciate your candor. It has been communicated to me that if we post our interest in chastity on these forums, in front of strangers- that no one will want to date us. Is this something you or anyone HERE agrees with? ......SO that statement supports the idea that we can't REALLY be honest here about any of this.



Marian, the people who are turned off by anyone's interest in chastity are precisely the people I want to stay away from. (I hope that came out right)

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This is how I feel and this is precisely why I posted about this most disturbing comment that was told to me. Someone with that thinking is exactly someone I would gladly screen out. THANK YOU for your support. theheart

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Mar 20th 2013 new

(Quote) William-607613 said: (Quote) Marian-83994 said: I appreciate your candor. It has been communi...
(Quote) William-607613 said:

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Marian-83994 said:

I appreciate your candor. It has been communicated to me that if we post our interest in chastity on these forums, in front of strangers- that no one will want to date us. Is this something you or anyone HERE agrees with? ......SO that statement supports the idea that we can't REALLY be honest here about any of this.





But anyone who reviews our profiles could see what we are saying here by simply looking at our answer to the question regarding pre-marital sex.

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That may be true in many cases, but some persons do not live congruently to the way they choose to answer those questions.

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Mar 20th 2013 new

(Quote) Jim-13836 said: How did you get a scapular to last none years? I killed two within the last few months....
(Quote) Jim-13836 said:


How did you get a scapular to last none years? I killed two within the last few months. Someone at my church just gave me a longer scapular and I am hoping this one lasts!

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I dunno! It was made with a kind of cable like cord and the images were a plasticly feeling type fabric over a felt backing. The image faded so it looked like two squares, but it just kept on keeping on.

I always wore it under my shirt, it'd occasionally get caught up in my chain and Catholic danglies. When it did break, the cord simply came out of the backing of the image.

I had a few dodgey ones in between, but the one I've got on now is about six years old.

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Mar 20th 2013 new

(Quote) Jerry-74383 said: (Quote) Marian-83994 said: I appreciate your candor. It has been co...
(Quote) Jerry-74383 said:

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Marian-83994 said:



I appreciate your candor. It has been communicated to me that if we post our interest in chastity on these forums, in front of strangers- that no one will want to date us. Is this something you or anyone HERE agrees with? ......SO that statement supports the idea that we can't REALLY be honest here about any of this.


I'm sure there are some who will not be inclined to date those who are clear about their intention to maintain a chaste relationship. Thank the Lord for allowing you to dodge that bullet.

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Thank you Jerry.

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Mar 20th 2013 new

(Quote) Naomi-698107 said: I dunno! It was made with a kind of cable like cord and the images were a plasticly feel...
(Quote) Naomi-698107 said:

I dunno! It was made with a kind of cable like cord and the images were a plasticly feeling type fabric over a felt backing. The image faded so it looked like two squares, but it just kept on keeping on.

I always wore it under my shirt, it'd occasionally get caught up in my chain and Catholic danglies. When it did break, the cord simply came out of the backing of the image.

I had a few dodgey ones in between, but the one I've got on now is about six years old.

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WOW. I think the devil is ruining mine. My best one was one that I bought last Holy Saturday, but I gave it to my sister in the fall because she was in need of one. Since then, i've bought 3, and they're all broken. :(

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Mar 20th 2013 new

(Quote) Jerry-74383 said: What do you do that your shoulder blade wore out after 9 years?
(Quote) Jerry-74383 said:

What do you do that your shoulder blade wore out after 9 years?

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I took one out of the lost and found at Church that seemed to need a home.

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Mar 20th 2013 new
(Quote) Justin-32820 said: This is a very good point. I'll add that focusing on Chastity as a way to avoid hell I thi...
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This is a very good point. I'll add that focusing on Chastity as a way to avoid hell I think is rather unheathly. Instead we should focus on the positives it brings and how it truly puts interest of the other first.

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right on Justin...this fear of hell is not what I think catholkicism and chastity is about.It is about focusing on the positive.
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Mar 20th 2013 new
(Quote) Naomi-698107 said: God made us. When He looked at us he said it was good. Therefore, every part of our being is good. Including ou...
(Quote) Naomi-698107 said:

God made us. When He looked at us he said it was good. Therefore, every part of our being is good. Including our sexuality. However, like the clutch on a car there's a right way and a wrong way to use it. Abusing it can result in all sorts of problems, both for us and our future spouse. My clutch is a bit slippery at the moment, its a real nusiance when it doesn't lock in gear properly and then refuses to move up into 3rd makes me look like an idiot at the intersection when it revs like a drive by shooting.



Anyway, sex...



God made our sexualities to be both life giving and generous. Not all of us can transmit life, either due to defect or sin or age, but that doesn't mean the generousity of it is mooted, nor should it be convienantly ignored.



So in order to reflect that generosity, we must give all of our sexuality to our future spouse. That means no dating Roise Palmer and her five daughters, that means no drunken Friday night orgies, that means no porn, no "third base". Everything. In its completeness, must be given to our future spouse, as God intended.



Plus, really, you just gotta look around and see the complete and unmitigated disaster the "free sex" society has won us. STDs are exploding in number and virosity, unplanned pregnancies, abortions, the "baggage" brought along by future partners, the addiction to porn, et cetera, its just a huge SNAFU. Is this really something we want to bring to our future marriages?



If I wasn't Catholic, I'd still live by the same sexual ethics, because it just makes sense.



My methodolgy in keeping my V club card:



1. Fornication messes everything up.



2. STDs are not pretty.



3. Don't want to have the "husband, you're x on the list of my lovers" conversation.



4. There's not enough good practising Catholics in this country, if I got pregnant out of wedlock, I'd have a huge moral crisis as in whom to adopt my baby to.



5. I love God. Fornication pi$$es Him off. I don't want to brass off the Almighty. He's my buddy.



6. Really? A couple o' minutes of naked pleasure with some guy? That's what classes as fun these days. I think its lazy and shows people can't come up with anything orginial to be doing on a Friday night. Bunnies shag en masse, I like to think we're a little more clever than bunnies. [And those few minutes o' pleasure, that's what's going to earn me an eternity in Hell? If people are going to go to Hell, at least go for something specatcular!]



7. Get a hobby. Go to bed tired. If your'e single, bed is for sleeping, computers are for WOW and annoying the atheists on their silly forums.



8. Pray. Pray and then pray some more. Imagine Mary is in your room, standing over your bed, watching you. Imagine in her sinless, holy voice, the same voice that soothed our Lord and called him to supper, imagine her saying "What are you doing?" You think you can explain your actions to Our Holy Lady? Then imagine her doing this: www.youtube.com



In closing, automatics are the devil; even taking into account dodgy clutches.







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well at least you didnt mention second base
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