First of all, put on your asbestos underwear, mate, because you are going to get flamed for that!
Second, if that is your impression, you aren't meeting the right kind of women for you. Put in your profile that you want someone who is a deep thinker...that'll scare away the ditzes.
Third, the easiest way to make conversation is: ASK QUESTIONS.
You will be surprised how many men will talk with a gal on the phone for an hour or more and when they hang up, she says, "He didn't ask me a single question about myself!"
Does she play board games? Collect things? Like museums? Travel? How about them Red Sox? Ever go fishing -- how did you like it? What do you think of Linked-In? Tell me about your childhood. Do you have a pet? What do you think is the biggest problem facing the next generation? Do you think there's life on other planets? What's the future of North Korea? Which interests or inspires you more: Thomas Aquinas, Aristotle, or Freud?
Just don't make it an interrogation (she wants to hear your views on these things, too) and don't ask personal questions until you have known each other for a while, or unless she raises the topic.
Hi Marge! A really good question to ask people (if it hasn't already been overdone) is what would they do if they won the lottery? It's fun to listen to others' replies; plus, it can be a real window into their character! Chelle