John, here are some suggestions that could help you broaden your conversation with your date mate
(Quote) John-220051 said: I can be the quiet type a lot of the time, and on occasion I struggle for things to talk about when I mee...
(Quote) John-220051 said: I can be the quiet type a lot of the time, and on occasion I struggle for things to talk about when I meet women. Any suggestions for becoming a better conversationalist?
Part of my problem is that I'm a thinker. Most women I meet probably aren't. What are some ideas for helping me to broaden my conversation?
, so that the conversation/date won't be a "stalemate". Speak clearly, look at her in the eyes, show interest on the topic, don't talk too fast or too slow and listen well. Ask your date questions that requires some kind of elaboration in the response, and not simply a "yes" or "no" answer. Make sure that whatever you ask will lead into a deeper conversation, because that will help you break through any hesitancy to talk. Learn to rephrase your questions so that they won’t sound like an “interview for a job” or “prying” questions that could make her uncomfortable. Avoid debatable and very personal questions. Ask her some interesting and fun questions instead, e.g. “If you could do anything you wish, what would you wish to do?” If you are allowed to make three wishes, what would they be? Then follow-up with another question like “Why did you chose that wish (blah blah) as number1…that wish as number 2…that wish as number 3?" “They said that there is more chance of a person to be strike by lightning rather than winning the lottery. What do you think of that?” “If you hit the jackpot in a lottery, what will you do with all that money? Will you keep it all, share some to relatives and friends or give some to charities?” Humor her, crack some jokes that make her smile/laugh during a lull moment so as to "break the ice" (even if it is not the best) just so you can both enjoy a good chuckle. Ask her about something timely (current events and issues) that's going on in the media, in sports, in pop culture; or even at CM…what does she think about a certain topic/subject in the forum or the blog. Look at your surroundings…admire them or make some comments about them, they can induce a positive conversation and gently ease toward common topics. Talk about your shared interests. Talk about what you’re passionate about and why, then ask her in return. Try and figure out what her hopes and dreams are. Take care to guide the conversation towards the things she finds interesting, this helps you find out who she is as well. Be curious but cautious. Compliment your date but give a sincere
compliment, women can detect if your compliments are sincere or not. A conversation get more interesting if both of you ask each other questions. A good conversation should be a give and take...exchanging ideas, interests etc. If she don't ask you a question voluntarily, offer her to ask you any questions and that you will gladly answer them. Check these links, hopefully they can help you with your problem re: becoming a better conversationalist www.toastmasters.org www.matilijapress.com www.standupandspeakto.us