To me, if both parties have not agreed to date exclusively, you don’t have a relationship.
There is however a dichotomy in this scenario. It seems if men are dating several woman, they are “branded” as being not well-grounded, can’t make a commitment, window shopping, Casanova or dating multiples will hopefully result in one or more to satisfy their physical desires. If a woman does the same, they are exploring their options. I am not saying this is right but just from what I have observed in my 60 plus years.
It's one thing if a man is meeting different women for a drink or an occasional pizza but when deeper feelings enter the equation, they are starting to tiptoe through a very dangerous minefield. Initially, a woman naturally feels hurt and feel they were just used. Then, it can turn into outright anger and that anger is justified.
True faith based women are looking for a commitment that will lead to marriage and a strong physical relationship. Nothing wrong with that. All men should seek the same.
The bottom line - dating like so many other things in life is a risk. Some dating will grow into something strong that winds up in the “penthouse” and some will fall apart that eventually winds up in the “outhouse”. Nothing ventured, nothing gained. If one is not willing to take chances, don’t date and just stay single.
After being married once, I learned never to get my hopes up. The person you meet today may not be the same person three months from now. In social settings, usually people are on their best behavior. It is through a period of being around each other that we can eventually see the person for who they are. The phonies will always rise to the top. Their lies will eventually catch up with them. Once a woman loses their trust and respect for you, it is hard if not impossible to regain that trust.
I personally would not care to date a woman who is dating multiple people. If I can commit to one woman at a time, so can they.
Tricia, I would drop that guy. Not worth any more effort.
Just my take.