Barbara- People have trouble letting go due to hormones released during or at the culmination of sexual activity. You probably have heard of Oxytocin and Vasopressin. A woman has Oxytocin released during foreplay and sexual intercourse and the man has Vasopressin released at climax. So there you go. Those are our bonding chemicals, and we experience a spiritual tie to the person as well. Persons have to pray to break those ties in order to be able to move on. Lots of us are walking around wounded due to the past involvement with others and are afraid to date now- perhaps due to these left over and unresolved feelings.
Wow Marian. I knew there are spiritual, and of course emotional, ties when people are intimate and that sometimes a person needs to be purged of that before moving on to a new relationship. But I had no idea it was chemical. That's even worse.
Or better. Knowledge is power. Knowing it is partly chemical makes it something one can address rationally, don't you think?
Like getting a chemical out of your system. Like working out and jogging to purge onesself of a chemical. It can be seen as: Metabolizing it out of your system so to speak. But yes these chemicals make it a heightened experience, and this is why it is hard to let go.
Many of us have studied and now know that we get a surge of endorphins when we fall in love and it lasts about two years.
For some persons, who never intend to fall in love, they may not experience any bonding.