Well, this thread explains the unexplained.
Crazy thing is: if you're not raised in the Church, and even perhaps if you are, you hear from all sectors that men just aren't good enough. Oh, sure, Home Improvement was just fine as a sitcom in which the dad is a goofball and his wife is right 95% of the time, but then this becomes a standard trope. Commercials, too. Magazines, too. Movies, too. Yeah.
While it's certainly understandable for women to show concern for a man's ability to provide as a man, one could posit the reverse as well. Thus I ask in turn: where are the women who can cook? Women who are discerning and educated enough to be entrusted with an intelligent man's offspring and to homeschool them properly on matters literary, mathematical, theological, historical, artistic, and scientific? Where are the women who have kept themselves chaste? Who have sought to build character and lifeskills rather than acquiring more stuff?
As a man who can make pot roast, turkey, couscous, pizza, bread, and sushi from scratch -- not to mention ice cream, cheese, and rootbeer -- I'd somewhat prefer a woman who can outcook me and who will take the time to look at what is healthy, affordable, and (preferably) organic.
I certainly don't want my children to be subjected to public schooling if it can be avoided. They lie about the church, essentially avoid discussion of morals, and altogether just don't teach well. The New International Version of the Bible is translated at the eighth-grade reading level because that is the highest complexity that doesn't give the average high-school grad a mild headache; the average college graduate reads *comfortably* at the tenth-grade reading level and struggles above that. Since I read the original languages, I will tell you the Bible is certainly above that, and we suffer for lack of quality education.
This shows the failure of public schooling, a failure that I blame primarily on the teacher-to-student ratio (also: teaching to the test). I've had some excellent teachers, let me tell you, but split attention means lower quality. If a woman can teach well, cook well, and has learned arts such as sewing to help save money, that's awesome.
My point is that provision is a team effort with the husband providing raw materials at the risk of exposing himself to outside dangers (especially true in pre-industrial times) while the wife refines the raw materials, including children that are to someday become intelligent, adult Catholics. It's a team effort, and today's society has thrown things into chaos and, although there was no "golden age", neither sex today tends to shine at their traditional roles on average.
Although I fit all three of those qualities you mention, I would suggest another: financial restraint. Ambition is fine and good, and so is having a steady job, but if you don't know how to save money and how to plan for children, retirement, etc., then it really doesn't matter how much you make. Rap stars and football players both have their share of stories in which men with no financial sense suddenly get pretty hefty paychecks. The results, Tiffiany, are seldom good for those without financial sense to invest in low-risk assets.