At the request of many men (and women) I am starting a post that partially picks up on one that was locked. It is a shame that we cannot have an adult discussion about a topic that means so much to so many of us. If I didn't feel so strongly about this I would simply give up and quit. My CM subscription expires in 5 days and I'd be done with it. However, many have written to me--both men and women--and they want to be able to talk about how to balance having a career, being ambitious, and also trying to having a dating life--to go from being single to at some point, married. This is a valid topic that many of you agree you want to discuss. So, if they choose to shut this thread down again, then so be it. But I'd thought I'd give it one last fighting chance.
One special gentleman wrote to me and pointed out a vary valid point: that some people have it all and yet have nothing. They may have wealth and success in the world's eyes but they are still single and miserable. In essence, they lack that loving relationship with a spouse that so many of us seek.
For many men, women often expect them to be educated, ambitious, goal-driven, and the breadwinner. The flip-side is that men often feel that they don't want to sacrifice a family life over a career and thus may choose a position in life that is deemed less-ambitious. For women, many men expect them to be able to run a household and take care of the kids (and desire to) but they are so often pressured to also obtain an education and pursue a career (you know, in case Mr. Right never comes along or he does come along and something happens to him and they have to run the household).
So, my question is, what are realistic expectations--for both men and women--to have toward each other as singles? And, how can we better balance what we as singles ultimately want--to be married--with our ambitious, goals, education, dreams, etc?