Hello, I've recently adopted 2 kids from overseas. Though they are 5 and ~8, they're about 2 and 3 emotionally/ experientially (now that they've been here 10 weeks).
I had no idea what I was getting into.
Any advice is appreciated from parents of adopted /special needs kids.
Advice for normal american kids my age really doesn't apply . But God bless us all.
Congratulations on becoming a mother or and/or expanding your family.
There is hope for your children. I am a special ed teacher working with children with developmental delays ages birth to five. My favorite cases are adoption cases because these children improve the quickest. Adopted children are more likely to be delayed due to lack of experience (as you indicated) rather than a learning disability, even though they will probably be classified with learning disability purely bcause of the significant delay.
It is imperative that you have your children evaluated by your department of education as soon as possible and vigorously pursue services for them. I say vigorously because most school systems (here in NY anyway) are strapped for cash and are trying to save money by delaying the evaluation process and under servicing children. Make sure you obtain a copy of your rights as a parent (some type of pamphlet or guide book)from your dept of ed and memorize it from cover to cover. Know and push for your rights. Seek the council of an education lawyer, if necessary.
I am hooping that your school system is different than ours here and you won't have to be on the offensive. I don't mean to scare you; it's just that many parents here have to fight for their chidrens educational rights. Maybe your experiences will be different there and the school system will be very generous with service. Just be prepared to be an educated, over involved and savvy parent who is pushy instead of a push over.
God bless you for giving these children a chance.