I think men and women are both as equally guilty as each other in this regard. And Catholics and Protestants are just as bad as those in the secular world.
How many threads are there about "where are all the good/Godly Catholic men/women?" And I say to myself "I'm right HERE! And look, there's a great Catholic bloke THERE and another strong woman of God over there... oh, but that's right, we're a little too large and a little too fugly for your liking..."
Following these threads you ususally see on the same page, some thread about "chemistry".
We hide behind this nonsense of "mutual attraction" as if its talking about whether we both like eating Chinese and animated movies. Its just a nice little Catholic way of saying "physical attraction". Its like how "charitable" has come to mean "Politically correct" for Catholics too affraid to stand up for the Truth.
This is a Catholic site, there are plenty of solid Catholic men and women here. The arguments that flare up over the 7/7s shows this. Yet, we all sit on our hands and say "Oh well, I had a F2F but there was no "chemistry".
Excuse my language, but what a load of absolute stock truck run off. The chunky stuff. WIth bits of grass in it. That's been sitting on the floor of the truck for a few weeks. In the Summer. Under a tree where pigeons nest.
I know enough Catholic men who are "good" Catholic men in the sense we like to use the word "good" on, and doesn't matter if its in RL or OL, for the vaste majority they don't just want a woman who goes to Mass each week and could tell you the difference between Billings and Creighton, they want that woman to be a nice, slender thang who can look good on their arm. Likewise, we have women here harping on about where's the good Catholic blokes, and then they have the audiacity to add the footnote "Oh, but you gotta have a million dollars and be a brain surgeon and be fit".
We're all really just deluding ourselves if we think its not happening in our little Catholic part of the world.
Personally, I know gosh darn well that guys will cut contact the moment they meet me, because I"m never going to feature on Covergirl. Good Catholic men who hand out the Eucharist at Mass, and they're just as shallow and vain as the atheists trying to pick up tramps at the Pub on Friday night. I personally know Catholic women who think its their God given right that they should have a handsome fellow.
We ALL need to grow up.
Imagine how successful this site would be if people stopped hanging so much on this chemistry/appearance nonsense.