I never knew I had the option.
Just for the record,I'd like to say that these Diocesan Tribunals are anullment Mills.Yep,that's right.I knew a Judge on a tribunal here in So. California,who left the Diocese,because(after 14 years as a Judge)he was pressured by the Bishop to sign off on Declarations of Nullity that were in fact Valid Marriages.He refused,and told the Bishop to take a hike.The Bishop was worried that the people may leave the Church and go elsewhere.Isn't it nice to know that these Liberals are looking out for your souls.Oh,don't worry.If you did everthing in good Faith,it's not on your conscience,but on the members of the Tribunal.The only reason I accepted mine as being valid is that the said Judge was a witness in my case,and told me that he was certain my Marriage was invalid.Otherwise,I would not have ever trusted these American Tribunals.If you think I am harsh,remember that both Popes JPll and Benedict XVl both said there are too many declarations of nullity in the USA.
I would agree with you, Bernard. My former priest told a friend "just fill out the paperwork and send in the money and it will go through." Wow! Along the same topic, I'm very frustrated that the tribunal seems to disregard marriage and seemingly makes it seem ok to date or even be engaged. The first sentence of the 4th paragraph in my notification letter reads "Do not set a date for another wedding until we inform you of a final and affirmative decision." Seriously?! How about a sentence that says something like "you are still married in the eyes of the Church and dating, not to mention an engagement, is adultery." We wouldn't want to educate or teach anyone this now would we because it may offend them and they may leave the Church. I am frustrated with a lack of leadership and education that is so desperately needed. I will continue to pray about this.