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Yes, I make it very obvious to a woman that I am interested if I am. . . . if I get too much of a rebuff, or a "hard-to-get," for more than a day or so, though, I give up. There are a lot of young women, now, it appears, that are less than honest and ethical, and I've been kept at bay for "better offers," to open up before, and I know all about it (in a small town, its pretty obvious when a girl told you she didn't know her schedule for the next evening and says she will get back to you then walks into the restaurant with a young buck. . . . )
I don't like games, or hard to get, etc. It is ONE thing to keep a man at a distance (pretending not to understand if he suggests a more serious relationship while the woman is happy just getting acquainted) but within her circle of intimates, while she makes up her mind. But playing guys off against each other, or testing his interest? This isn't college, ladies. I'm not a puppet. Most men aren't. Respect us, and we will respect you. I will pursue, but in one case, I e-mailed a young lady who had e-mailed with me previously who had recently re-joined. She read my message, but only after I sent an emote. After that, nothing was happening, so I have sent one more, three weeks later, wishing happy Easter and stating I will take the hint if she doesn't contact me this time. . . . she hasn't logged in since, so I haven't the foggiest.
I'm not becoming a stalker or creeper.
I don't think it's a matter of becoming pickier -- in many cases an older person has learned from experience what works and what doesn't.
OTOH, older folks have also learned what matters (sobriety and a generous nature, for exampl) and what does not (height and eye color).
Nice to see the reponses!
I know this has probably been asked before in the forums, but does it cause a man's interest to shrivel up and die if a woman initiates messages? I've noticed that if I send a emote or message to start, I may get a response, but it is terse...breif...uninterested.
I can't speak for other men. I would not become disinterested by a woman initiating a message. I am very shy and it is hard for me to initiate conversations. I would reply and be honest about my own interest and why I am or am not interested.