Rachel, I have a friend who won't respond to my Facebook, LinkedIn and personal email requests to connect. She was a good friend, not superclose, but we were knitting pals, hung out in the same shop...she even set me up on a blind date with a guy that she said knew me. (He did. I recognized him. The blind date ended up being like a 15-minute dinner, he was in a hurry to attend a fundraising dinner for a mutual friend. Never heard from him again.)
Anyhow, my knitting friend, who is Jewish, moved to Canada two years ago. She wanted to keep in touch at the time. We exchanged contact info. I didn't act on connecting with for a while.
So when I tried to connect via Facebook and she didn't respond. I was puzzled. I could read some of her knitting posts. But then I recently saw a post she had written about how Canada is more supportive of gay rights, not just marriage but civil unions. Then it dawned on me: she didn't want to friend me because she knew was I was conservative, and probably not supportive of gay marriage. It's also possible that she's 'out' of the closet since she moved to Canada, and she's not able to tell me this given my background.
I might be wrong, and it's all my imagination, but I'm sorta sad that my friend will not talk to me. Another friend from high school, a conservative Catholic girls school, is ignoring my emails to get together for coffee. She's living with her girlfriend, and is openly gay. I know all of this, but I would like to be friends again. I suspect she's pro-gay-marriage and she too doesn't want to meet given her views. Sad given that we did lots together in high school, and I really looked up to her at the time.