(Quote) Paul-302787 said: How are we to judge whether someone or not is "slightly ahead"? What is the deciding fa...
(Quote) Paul-302787 said:
How are we to judge whether someone or not is "slightly ahead"? What is the deciding factor here?
I do not go around trying to decide whether or not a woman grows spiritually enough. All I ask is for a Catholic woman who seeks the Truth with sincerity and actually believes there is a such thing as spiritual growth. I am not going to go around deciding whether this woman is spiritually mature enough for me. That's God's job.
The whole thing is based on a process of discernment.
The 7/7 are a good place to start, in the aspects of the combination of physical/spirtual areas of the faith.
Then there's the action of the faith, Mass & Confession attendance. How do they understand each? What do they understand of the Eucharist? WHat sort of ideas do they have about the Saints, about theology, about apologetics, do they have a grasp of Sacred Tradition, of Sacred Scripture?
What about the Gifts of the Holy Spirit? Do they understand these? Their place in the life of the Christian? In context of the individual's journey with God?
What is their love of God based on? Do they attend Church and Confession becasue they are soley affraid of Hell and dont' want to go there, or do they desire to do God's commands because they Love God and dont' want to dissappoint Him?
What is their understanding of the foundations of the faith, of God? Of hypostatic union?
Is their "faith" based soley on habit, on how they were raised? Or have they had some spiritual/intellectual realisation which has strengthened it?
There are screeds of questions that alert one to the spiritual standing of their prospective spouse. If the person is lacking in knowledge or experience, it is not always a bad thing, jsut an indication that further education is required, hence, they aren't as far along on their spiritual journey.
Or perhaps, they are just where they need to be?
For me, it would make no sense to be "yoked" to a man who doesn't understand the requirement of getting a priest into bless a new house. Or who doesn't take time out of his schedule to pray the Rosary. Would he take five minutes to "armour up" before leaving the house? Would he even know what the heck that means? How could I share my spiritual experiences with a man who religion and faith is just Sunday Mass and somethign cultural? If I shared with such a man half of what I've seen/experienced he'd probably commit me to the nut house.
This is what I mean by inequality in a spiritual journey or progression of such. Maybe its fine for the majority of people to marry someone who's completely unmatched on the spritual journey to themselves, but for me it would end in disaster; or a stink load of anti-psychotic meds.