(Quote) Frank-410833 said: Hi Maire, So you'd like me to back up my comments? Have you asked the other people w...
(Quote) Frank-410833 said:
So you'd like me to back up my comments? Have you asked the other people who agree with me to back up theirs? Actually the people who have agreed that this woman is a controlling and demanding unfair person who's selfish and gives ultimatums I think backs them up enough. Or did you not read this whole thread. Hope that helps. Take care now.
This is what I am hearing from you.
1) When person A gives ultimatums to his or her significant other, person A is controlling, selfish, evil, a waste of time, and a good-for-nothing...
2) When person A is confronted with an ultimatum by significant other, person A feels disrespected, dishonored, and the recipient of unhealthy behavior by significant other.
I would add the following five points to our conversation.
1) People who are controlling most likely learned this type of behavior from an overbearing family member (parent/older sibling).
2) Communication skills are learned.
3) The manners in which people handle their frustrations are learned from parents and from childhood settings.
4) We live in a "throw away" society -abortion, euthanize humans, and "don't want the dog/cat anymore because something better is in my life."
5) A conscience is developed from life experiences, education, parenting, personal choices, free will.
Frank, I will reiterate my earlier points and offer some solutions.
1) Your name calling (She's a You-know-what", "evil deadbeat"...) is not Christ-like. Don't do it.
2) Some of your words are self-tarnishing. Don't do it.
3) Your approach on this thread is counterproductive to what you're trying to achieve. Don't do it.
4) I invite you to rethink. Gather all of the facts prior to your opinions. Do it!
5) Pray for those who are involved. Do it! Prayer is far more powerful than a punch, a bite, or a loud bark. Pray -just do it!
6) When the Holy Eucharist touches your tongue, think of Mike's thread, and let silence be your offertory speech, not a harsh word. Do it!
7) Once again, be careful with your word choice. :) Do it!
8) I still think you're a funny, young lad. Some times you make me laugh. Keep doing it!
In regards to Mike's questions, we know what you would do. :)
Frank, if you wish to continue with this topic, we can talk over a beer (my treat). I'll be in the Chicago area in three weeks. I extend an olive branch to you. If you except -great. If not, add it to your fire. I'll bring marshmallows! :)
Maire -playground supervisor ;)