(Quote) Ray-566531 said:
If I loved the person, the dog would be gone.
If I was not so sure about the person, I would break up with the person.
If course, I don't have a dog and probably never will.
Is she allergic, had a bad experience with dogs, or just is a mean person?
If it is the first two, if you love the person, you would forego the pet.
People over animals. That is my rule.
[/quote: I'm guessing that the responses will vary depending upon a person's having had a pet before, or had none. The perspective is much different; both views deserve consideration.
Your organized thoughts about the situation sum up the choices pretty well.
Because Mike's dog has now gained the status of "family member", I think it would be difficult for him to make an overnight decision. First of all, there may be ways to keep the dog in the family -- either a relative or friend. But first, I would explore the reason for this lady not wanting the dog around. You mentioned possibilities above.
If allergies are a problem, there's little question about having an animal in the same home. A bad experience? Even many pet-lovers have had bad experiences with animals but manage to overlook the offenses (unless they are repeated). A mean person? Best to find out now.
At this point, Mike and his lady friend are not committed to each other, and he didn't mention any marriage plans. For that reason, it would seem premature to part with a devoted companion. If the relationship doesn't develop into something permanent, he has lost both the woman and his pet.
Another option is to ask this woman to try to adapt, little by little, to having the dog around. This process actually works in a lot of cases.
A thought occured that she might be demanding. What is the urgency? Why must a decision be made overnight? Given the circumstances, her "demand" seems unreasonable. Mike should be given time to consider possible options or some type of compromise. And the lady, in fairness to Mike, should offer the same consideration. This won't be the only point of disagreement they encounter. How will others be handled?