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My deceased husband was a heavy smoker who had his first cigarette when he was around 14. When we were engaged, I encouraged him to stop smoking, advising him of all the health risks. While he was dating me (it was a very brief courtship) and then after we were married, he tried to cease smoking, but after a few weeks gave in to the temptation of just one cigarette and then could not stop at one. He tried for 3 times and each time he failed after a few weeks.
After one year of marriage he finally decided to give up smoking totally. He had in his possession 2 cartoons each having over 100 packets of cigarettes. He used to work overseas and did not like the local Indian smokes. So he would bring his stack for the 3 months he was on leave. He chose a date and he smoked non-stop for the entire day till midnight. Then he put off the cigarette he had, took the cartoons and put them in a bin. His brother, a non- smoker was upset at him as he could have easily sold the foreign cigarettes. These were in high demand in our country and could have fetched him a large amount of money. However my husband stated that if it was bad for him, he could not allow someone else to use them. That was the end of his cigarette smoking. He gave up cold turkey at the age of 34 after smoking for 20 years of his life. After a year of not smoking, he could not physically tolerate passive smoking. Unfortunately, the cigarettes he had smoked caused their damage. He was diagnosed with lung cancer, 19 years after he had ceased smoking and died two years later. I am certain that if he had continued to abuse his body, he would have died much younger.
He told me that when he decided to stop smoking, he told himself that that was the last day he would smoke. He refused to use the word "try" to stop because he said that when he tried, he could keep off smoking for some time but gave in to pressure or an offer of a cigarette. But when he decided that he would not "try" but stop, he was able to stop. He also prayed the Memorare asking Mother Mary to help him and to the Holy Spirit so that he could look after his body as the temple of his God. According to him, it was this mindset and prayers that helped him. He did not use patches. The only thing that he used was to replace the urge with chewing gum, and gradually he reduced this too.
I would not be honest if I did not say that his love for me too was a motivating factor in ceasing smoking.I used to be very sad seeing him smoke and prayed that he would have the grace to cease. Besides being mindful of the effects of cigarettes on his health, I also did not like his breath and so deep kissing really put me off.
That is why I will not date any man who is a smoker. I am afraid he too will die at a young age due to smoking.
I pray and hope that the electronic cigarette will help you cease smoking. God Bless