We are a family who love photographs. My entire home is full of photgraphs -of different extended family members, of us as a family, our kids and my husband.
My husband died a little over 2 years. For the first year, our home was like a memorial to him, with pictures of him all over the house. He was on our dining table and so we felt he was with us when we sat for our meals. We even had small pendants with his picture on them.
Gradually, we did not feel the need to have our home like a memorial. In fact I changed the flooring, the furniture to reflect a new begining and my individuality. Most of the photographs have gone, but we still have a few around, a couple of him on his own, but most of them are with all of us. To my children who still live with me, he is still part of their lives. To me, even though I am now comfortable with accepting that my marriage was over when he died; "till death do us apart", he will always be a part of me, for who I am today is due to his influence in my life.
I do not think our home will be completely free of his photographs; I still have my deceased in-laws, my deceased mother and other members of the family on our walls.
If I move houses when I marry, I am not certain if I will have all these pictures on our walls. I am not attached to them.
Regarding pictures of my future husband's deceased spouse, I am OK with that too. I think what is important is open dialogue about this when we date. Both need to be comfortable and not threatened by the dead spouse.