(Quote) Patrick-955401 said: Hi Dan:
If I may, I think you're going at this the wrong way. In my opinion, you're ...
(Quote) Patrick-955401 said:
If I may, I think you're going at this the wrong way. In my opinion, you're giving too much importance to your feelings of attraction and not enough on the reality that this is a flesh and blood woman you're talking to. If I may be blunt, a man can fall in love with a woman every 5 minutes on a warm summer night on a busy street. It's not really "love," of course; it's just a natural reaction to seeing beautiful women.
If I were you, I would simply continue to strike up little conversations and develop a friendship with the person. Over time, if there's anything there, you will have your question, and many others, answered. Don't be too hasty to find the answers to these questions. Have faith that God will bring to you the woman he desires you to be with - or not! The most important thing is to put God first, deepen a real relationship with Him, and trust that he will satisfy your deepest desires. It takes trust and self denial, developed through prayer, to walk with God, but this is the only way to find faith, hope, and love. And these three things are very attractive.
I agree with Patrick, it may be that God has put that person in your life for a reason whether it's to strengthen her faith by your example or for her presence to affect you in a positive way as well. The person you are meant to be with isn't going to show up all wrapped up in a pretty bow ready for you to have.......many times the goal of a relationship is to work together toward a common goal and for most of us it is to live according to God's will and to help each other to get to heaven.
I have just begun this journey but wonder if we are allowed to have more than one soul mate during our time here on earth. My husband of 25 years died of cancer almost 8 yrs ago, I loved being married to him and in looking back practiced poor judgement by entering into an unhealthy relationship too soon afterward and recently broke away from that.
I thank God for my family and friends who provide unconditional love and support which gives me strength.
It is very important to be active within your church community to make friends.
And on a lighter side.....think networking people! The person that peaks your interest initially may not be the ONE.....remember that smiles and friendship spread quickly. Such as the bonds and friendships I have seen on these forums.....just sayin'