It would be a deal breaker if somebody took the position that one rite (or form of a rite) or another (even my own) was holier/more valid/inherently better than the others.
The variety of forms we have as Catholics should be a source of strength. I want nothing to do with somebody who has the delusion that their personal preferences are God's commandments.
As for the answer to your question...Canon Law has a way of stepping into "things Catholic". Using myself as an example...I was baptized and confirmed in the Latin Rite. I married a man from the Melkite Rite. I had to take his Rite, according to Canon Law in 1962. We split in 1978 and I am "In Process". Because of my current rite status of record the Melkite Tribunal is handling my annulment instead of the Latin Rite that I eventually returned to. So there may be some paperwork involved if you choose to marry in a rite that you are not "registered" in.
The most detracted from God people I know, are also the leaders in so many churches, I'm shying away from those types all together, fed up with their posterity and high thinking of self. I would rather deal with someone that has not a clue about the faith, compared to those and I could easily just toss the towel in on the whole having faith at all in the first place gambit, for seeing the utter flakiness and games of the gals I know within the mainstream Catholic church, they are worse then women in the world themselves in that regard.
Would rather a blank slate, then someone that has an issue along what form of mass I attend, be happy I'm attending any at all!