Or, you could just send a note , perhaps with a question, and see where it goes....
Kidding aside, a conversation can start anywhere, about anything. Keep sending contacts, the guys who are right for you will answer.
Lois, I don't want you to be depressed when I say this, but there is no written time frame for success on this site.. I have been here 8 years..I have seen people find their match in the first week they were here and I have seen others still here after 12 years.. I have recently begun a nice friendship with a guy who popped up on my mutual matches just a few days after I posted that the mutual matches was an abject failure for me.. So far he is everything I have been posting I wanted for the last 8 years. Patience is a virtue..
Sorry things are not going as you hoped.
I agree with everyone above--you have to just keep trying, and reaching out.
But one thing I notice on your profile which could be part of your issue, and that is you don't accept several teachings of the faith, and I don't know who you are contacting, but if they for example believe the Pope is in falliable when he speaks infalliably, and you don't that can be a big difference, as this is a Catholic website.
Perhaps you could explore those issues more, making your a better match for someone who accepts all the teachings of the faith.
If not, and you are looking for people who share your views, when you search, search for someone who believes in "most" or "some" of the teachings of the faith. Maybe that way you find those (and there are many on here) who share your world view, and might be more likely to respond.
I have recently begun a nice friendship with a guy who popped up on my mutual matches just a few days after I posted that the mutual matches was an abject failure for me.. So far he is everything I have been posting I wanted for the last 8 years. Patience is a virtue..
Yes I have to totally agree with you Pat on this one too.
For me believing in all of the seven Church's teachings is so very important. With that said one can only hope and pray that HE will help us to meet the right one(s). Keeping our wonderful Catholic Faith and practicing it everyday is also so very important. Just need to keep praying and God will eventually answer our prayers. In due time we will hear from someone. Even if it is just a short emot.
Good luck to all not only on this CM website but also in life itself. Take each day as it comes. God will answer our prayers and needs. God Bless you all.