I soooooooo relate to your post. I turned 55 last year and have now focused on volunteering and learning and where ever He leads me. I feel your brokenness, every day. It has worn me out as well it isn't fun it I believe gets to the point where it is downright unhealthy. I have written numerous posts about older guys looking for younger women because I feel it is an issue that puts bright, beautiful women in their 50's and up at a huge disadvantage.
Most of the mail I get is from age 68 and upwards. When I first came on sites like this I was around 41, same thing men over 55 always messaged me, they think love is a cafeteria where you select what you would like and throw away the rest!!! Sorry for the harshness but I have lived it and many other women have as well.
I have spent 24 years raising my son alone and don't want to have to take care of someone right now I want to have some relaxation and fun , I don't want to be a nurse right now!!!!! I have spent alot of money on sites, catholic events, catholic singles groups, even started with 2 other singles....it failed. Tried later with a second failure....same thing. I believe that singles are the most FORGOTTEN part of the church, and it is very sad there isn't any more support for the ministry. In every church I have been too, there are ministries for everyone except singles, I believe it is because they are not supported.
My heart is sad for you and all the beautiful, gifted talented women out there overlooked because somewhere someone decided that vanity is more important than true love.
I haven't given up, and I hope you don't as well, I have turned it completely 110% over to the Lord, He will never let you down.
Blessings to you