(quote) John-971967 said: I take "in process" to mean that one is seeking annulment discernment now. It really means "unsure" until discerned, but shows due dilligence on the person's part. This is basically a "no" to me (erring on the side of caution), but it gives a bit more information about their particular situation.
"Unsure" to me means that the discernment process has not begun and that the person has done little work and does not have a clear answer. This needs more particular initiative, from my perspective. If I noticed someone to have an "unsure" status for more than one month, I would interpret that person as a PLAYER here. Yeah, that's just me :)
So, I feel that I can only freely approach the "yes". Those I trust, but before entering into a relationship one is entitled to verify :) since it has been pointed out that not all yeses are really a yes, either.
John, your well stated response/post is why I have a problem with the "Free To Marry" question being answered by four choices ...too many words to say "yes" or "no".
"Yes" is clear! "No" may need to be qualified depending on the respondent.
"In Process" is clear but still "No". "Unsure" is not as clear but is most likely a "No", too.
"Unsure"(A) could be taken as "I don't know if my annulment has finally come through yet because I haven't received notification".
"Unsure"(B) because you don't understand the question and/or have no idea what "Free To Marry" means is not a good answer!!
My solution...add a dropdown expansion for "No". Choices would be "In Process" or "Unsure"