You said it. When they move out, change the locks.
Or you can do what I did when my eldest two moved out -- moved across country.
With 5 kids, everybody takes a turn so I'm always having 'one of those days'...you just gotta scream, then laugh, then eat chocolate! I get so frustrated some days...but then I look back & know I was doing this all alone even when I was married, so things aren't really different...and dang it, I can do this! Me & God, we got this
Dana, I do.
I do have those days. Being a single parent is not easy. Being mother, father, teacher, nurse, taxi driver, coach, cook, cleaner and every other role within 24 hours - how do we do it? Yet we get there.
Nerves are frayed at times and I may be irritable - especially when they test the boundaries.
Yet we do the best we can and we know at the end of the day that we have loved to the best of our capacity. AND they know it too.
God bless you and your family
You are not alone:-). I have done this"beating myself up" for not being a perfect mom, too. I have always been single. My son will be 7 in a month.
I think that anyone who really cares and wants to raise their children to be caring strong people, feels like this sometimes.
Your children are in tougher age. I love teenagers in my clinic, but I am already scared what I will do with my son when
he hits that age, because he is stubborn now. It is normal for teens to doubt and question everything you say,
because they are trying to find their own identity.
I realized that: being negative to yourself about how you parent, leads to being negative to children...it makes things worse.
So, I think, giving yourself a little reward (whatever you like) for all the hard work you do everyday, is going to make you happier
and make you a better mom in the end. Then, you will have more patience with your kids - so much needed at their age.
Yes, time for yourself is very important... even though it many times feels like there is not enough hours in a day:-)
Have a nice weekend.
YES! I am really trying to listen to my girls- 15 and 13. Since my husband died 3 years ago and they have had varied level is of grief- and givng me grief!! PRAY with and over them - and it has helped. Also did reading by Heather Forbes, LCSW and her Beyond Consequences therapy. God Bless!
I have a conflict that interferes with getting my 11yo to a class she wants to go to every Wed when I have Faith Formation classes.
My 8yo really needs more one-on-one time with me but I'm always running the other kids around lately.
I'm fighting a migraine and just wish I had someone to 'tag team' with so I could just rest and wait this out.
It's hard to balance parenting and self-care sometimes.
Happy is certainly not one of them. The ex-wife is decided to go ahead and marry without an annulment . She hadleft the church and is trying to drag the children into that same hole.
Sometimes it's just enough to get them fed properly after a week of junk food and iMass and convince them that they yes they still need to go to confession. Add to the misery that the X won't let the children come visit me any other time except for the the prescribed times in the children's plan that we put together and well.
Mine is all about herself doesn't matter what the children want ,think or need to do it's about her. Hopefully all of you on here are different