(quote) Sam-427739 said: I have been musing on this topic because my experience is so positive and so different from the majority. Is there something in a woman's behavior that elicits this response or have I just experienced 43 years of extraordinary good luck? My brothers argue that if a woman acts like a lady, most people around her will automatically treat her as such. I'm not sure what that looks like, but I guess I must be doing it.
The men in my life are chivalrous: brothers, nephews, my son, and most random strangers. They open doors, carry parcels and in general look for ways to serve, and all do so without fuss or fanfare. This continues to be my experience, even though I work with high schoolers in an urban school district. In my time as a licensed driver, jumper cables have magically appeared, several tires have been changed for me and polite, friendly police officers have taken my sisters and me to a hotel when our suburban full of kids broke down.
Chivalry is part of the social contract that makes life a little more pleasant and gracious for all of us. Yay, chivalry and the men who practice it!
Hi Sam it is not just luck. I am a believer there are still great people out there willing to perform these random acts. And not just guys.
Just the other day a lady of perhaps 40 opened a door and stood there holding it for me as I walked up! I thanked her...and said "Hope you have a good day"
The other day I was with my sons and the older one opened a door for a lady before we entered a building.
Just this morning after a near disaster of knocking a lady over here at the offices (we rounded a corner at the same time) I was able to grab her shoulders to keep her from falling backward. Luckily this lady and I are friends (she runs a business down the hall) and she said, "Could we try that again?"
Anyway don't know if that qualifies for anything but good reflexes (after that first cup of coffee!)