In my work, I meet a good number of people of all ages and cultures (I know, surprising since I am in KY-- go figure, the world comes here. It is that GOOD! ) I give tours to our properties. We go in and out of buildings all the time. I have learned that behavior towards others comes from attitude. I do get the doors held for me. I think it is because I expect that. I don't rush ahead, and my body language conveys that I am a lady who expects to be treated as such. Gentlemen, because I treat them as such (smile, call them "sir", dress appropriately, and give them opportunity to be chivalrous), respond with chivalrous actions. I do think I see this more from men younger than myself, though. And those older. My age bracket could use some work. Of course, my age bracket of women have done a number on them, as we refused to have the door held for us in our stupid college years. ( Oh the foolishness of youth! We did not know what gift we were snuffing out!! Please forgive us.)
But chivalry goes beyond holding doors. It means adjusting one's language to be more genteel in the presence of ladies. It means being willing to take personal risks to defend and protect women and children. (Men who are visibly active in the prolife movement are chivalrous, in my mind.) It means taking care of a woman's financial need. (An example of this is covering the meal tab, or helping to pay for gas when you are traveling with her. This is something that I have had some of my chivalrous male friends do for me.) It means leading spiritually-- directing the group to pray, setting a standard and direction of faith, remembering to put God first.
Chivalry isn't gone. It's just hidden. It's been so hidden that many people think it is mythical. Kind of adds to the romance of it, doesn't it, for those of us that know it? I am blessed to know some chivalry, and I crave more because it inspires me to be a lady.
Thank you, Sir Jerry!