(Quote) Meg-920823 said: Yes, Jacqueline. I have thought more about this. Some thrive on projects. My parents were like that. We a...
(Quote) Meg-920823 said:
Yes, Jacqueline. I have thought more about this. Some thrive on projects. My parents were like that. We always had a home or yard improvement project going; my sister always had a new topic she wanted to study about in a book; some want to play or watch competitive events and others prefer to be mellow and 'smell the roses'. Of course most of us are a mix of some sort. When my mother and father decided on a project then my mother was ready to get started immediately and not stop until it was completed. My father wanted to map it out (yes on Excel only that didn't exist then ) and then maybe 'make it last' or not start it for a month or two or...longer. So my parents and sister were all very focused but in different ways and on different things. Some would say we were crazy because we never 'chilled'.
It is good we are not all made the same; it would make for a dull life. It is good to consider all this in choosing a marriage partner but I believe marriage to even the most perfect match takes work and a lot of grace.
Yes, I agree that how things like projects, or things to do together are approached, may be an important issue.
Generally, I am a planner. I think I like to be with others who are also planners, instead of doing things mostly spontaneously. But the plan must be flexible. Also, some people need, and I dislike using this term, but it does fit, "need space." There are times when I prefer to be set apart from others, and/or not be involved in conversation. But simultaneously, I want people around me who I can depend upon to be caring and loving, as well.