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Thank you so much Colleen, I guess the reason it was in my mind was the chemistry there. It is only a start, but pursuing here does daunt me a bit knowing her situation. I want to be careful but not anxious about the situation. My heart just sometimes tells me to go and I go but Yes the best I can do is ask jesus what the reason is behind this. Im glad to hear that it works for you! Maybe a learning experience or something worth waiting to develope.
Sounds to me like you gave it your best shot.
Her: probably just coming to realize that she's not healed from the breakup. If she's a student, she's probably facing exams pretty soon, too.
You: letting your emotions get in front of your brain. She's nice, you had fun, that's great. But unless and until she demonstrates real interest in you, keep your heart in storage.
Finals and last minute papers etc will keep both of you busy or it should lol. Ask if she wants to grab a soda or pizza or something when finals finish. Don't push too hard and remember you really don't want to be the rebound guy. It might take some pressure off if you do a group thing and its not just a one on one. Its hard when you feel like you are really connecting with someone but take a deep breath keep your school priorities in the fore and just enjoy the moments you do get together.
If you can, don't go into the relationship at breakneck speed. Be a little circumspect. You should try to find the answers to those questions first. Why did she break up? If the man broke up with her, why? Would you break up with a woman for the same reason(s)? Yes, you hit it off, but are the fundamentals sound, in other words, does she have anything in her character that would make you run away, things that are absolutely a no-no for you?
You need to be able to answer those questions quickly before you become totally blinded by love. Once you become blinded, it is too late, you get carried away. Years later into the relationship, if the fundamentals were sound, it is always a dream come true. If you were polar opposites, it slowly becomes a nightmare from which you eventually come out, broken-hearted and miserable.