I have a good way to let people know that I really am not interested, but in such a way that they aren't offended. We are on a Catholic site after all... we should probably avoid hurting people unnecessarily. They did take the time to reach out to you.
So what you do is pick something about their profile that is not compatible with you. Choose something that they really cannot change, BESIDES THEIR LOOKS if that's the reason why.
#1. I'm sorry, but you are just too far away for us to have a chance together. Thanks though, I think your profile sounds great and you'll find the right person on here.
#2. I'm looking to marry someone with the same interest in sports as me, so unfortunately I don't think we're compatible.
#3. Thanks for sending the emote. I really appreciate you taking the time to write to me, but I am looking for someone interested in X, as I am.
You get the idea, mention something in their profile when you turn them down. That way you at least show that you took the time to do what they did for you. You never know who knows who on here, and one good deed might lead to another.
I'm going to go on sidetracked rant. So, apologies if this takes things off-track.
Hollywood-inspired delusions cause more pain than necessary in this difficult search for a spouse. The movies are not real, and an 18-year-old starlet with shiny hair and makeup done by Max Factor dressed in a taffeta gown and jewels is not going to marry someone old enough to be her father or her grandfather, and the chances of meeting the love of your life on a bridge in Paris France on holiday are pretty low. On the other side of the coin, Richard Gere is not going to show up at your house dressed in a tuxedo in a Lambourghini to pick you up for a date - you may have to take the bus to the coffee shop.
Too many people want fantasy dates and are ignoring the much more realistic and bountiful opportunities around them. More people would be happy if we stopped wanting the impossible, and started reaching out for the possible. I'll get off my now.
I believe a lot of people have unrealistic expectations. It can come in various forms, such as expecting that your perfect match will share all your interests, etc. I've been guilty of unrealistic expectations before, but I also have been on the receiving end of that so I've been trying to be more open. It's great advice to keep in mind that a great match may not be what we initially envision. We're talking about real flesh and blood people, not fantasy scenarios from movies that can be a far cry from how reality usually works. It's often worth it to get to know people through at least a few email exchanges to see if something could be there that we didn't notice at first.
As far as rejection, I don't think it's right to lie. I prefer to be told a reason.