I am with you on this one. It does not bother me if anyone greets me when I go to a new parish. I am not there to be greeted. I am there to be with Jesus. I see lots of people at my old parish who looked pretty "bothered to be there" during mass at my old parish. I am convinced that what you bring to the Mass and the church itself is what you will recieve in return. I have had some protestant friends that left the Church for that reason alone. That they weren't being greeted and that the priest did not seem "happy". they also said they were 'bummed out' that there was no 'fellowship' i.e. coffee and donuts after Mass. So they went to Calvary Chapel... Very sad to me, that people go to Mass expecting rather than to 'give' and be grateful.
This makes me think of my parish. The people crow about how beautiful the church building is and how great the music is and how welcoming the people are. While all of this is true, at least to an extent, it is very rare to see anyone doing something like praying before Mass because everyone is too busy socializing. While the music is entertaining, it is often exactly that, entertaining, and it distracts from the Mass. During the announcements at the end of Mass, people are often introduced and applauded as though you are at a show. And a fairly high percentage of people leave before the priest and before the final hymn is complete. Of course, even if you wait till the final hymn is complete, the band waits a few seconds and then starts playing music again so that they are playing music as you leave the church. Today, my friend and I stopped to pray before we left after morning Mass. I noticed that we were the only ones...in a church that holds nearly 2000 people.
This is not the Mass as I know it. Not only do people not participate, but there is a lack of reverence and understanding as to what is going on. It's kind of sad, but I'm not sure what to do about it.